Miscommunication with someone is not an automatic sign the relationship is over. In some cases, God will actually use miscommunication to help reveal “the one” to you…
1. God Will Allow Miscommunication When You Meet The One to Give You Confidence that This Is Not Infatuation or Puppy Love
There are at least two ways to get deceived about “the one.” First, you can think that the person you have the strongest feelings for is always the one.
This usually leads to chasing the wrong person because the strongest feelings are oftentimes being fueled by things like infatuation.
Godly romantic feelings, however, grow at a healthy pace because they are fueled by truth and not our imaginations.
While you certainly want to be passionate about the person God wants you to marry, passion alone leads you down the wrong path:
- 1 Corinthians 13:4, “Love is patient . . .”
- Proverbs 7:22-23, “All at once he follows her . . . as a bird rushes into a snare; he does not know that it will cost him his life.”
- Proverbs 25:28, “A man without self-control is like a city broken into and left without walls.”
The next way people often get deceived about “the one” is to assume problems in the relationship mean God is saying “no” about this person.
However, real love deals with real problems. When you meet the true love of your life, don’t be surprised if God uses this relationship to deal with issues in both of your hearts as your love for each other helps heal and mature you both.
By working through miscommunications, God will give you confidence that there is real substance in this relationship rather than mere infatuation or puppy love.
2. God Will Allow Miscommunication When You Meet The One So You Two Can Improve Your Communication Together
Anything worth having requires hard work. Of course all good things come by God’s grace, but he will empower us by his Spirit to take difficult steps to receive the glorious blessings he wants to give us:
- James 1:19, “Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger . . .”
- Proverbs 15:1, “A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.”
- Ephesians 4:29, “Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.”
Commands like this sound very appealing. But don’t be mistaken, they are impossible to do without the Holy Spirit empowering you and sanctifying you (John 15:5).
You won’t naturally speak this way. You will have to be trained to communicate like this.
If you want a deep communication connection with your future spouse, God will develop this in your relationship through allowing you two to have miscommunications.
By miscommunicating and then talking through the problems, you will be developing the real skills that result in verbal clarity.
3. God Will Allow Miscommunication When You Meet The One So You Two Will Know God Put You Two Together and It Wasn’t Just Your Own Choice
If you can do something in your own strength, you can be sure you are not on God’s path for your life. God will call you to an impossible road to travel that you will fail on unless you are truly depending on him for your success.
You can’t communicate lovingly and clearly on a consistent bases unless you are truly walking with the Lord.
By allowing you to see your inability to communicate properly together, God will be giving you the invitation to receive the miracle only he can bring – unity (Philippians 2:1-5, John 17:20-21, Ephesians 4:1-3).
- Matthew 19:6, “What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.”
- Proverbs 19:14, “House and wealth are inherited from fathers, but a prudent wife is from the Lord.”
- Genesis 2:18, “I will make him a helper fit for him.”
When you fight through miscommunication and you and this person are unified, you will know this miracle is actually from God and not yourself.
